Sometimes, when you think you want to let something go but keep holding on anyway, a part of you has another agenda. That part of you secretly thinks that you can magically change the outcome of something that happened in the past–if only…. If only you had said something different, if only you were stronger, if only you had left the party a few minutes earlier, then things would be different.
If you want to let go of remembering how angry you are because of the way someone treated you, you may have to let go of the fantasy that, somehow, something you say or do now will change what happened back then. It won't! What happened, can't be changed. What can be changed is your fantasy or secret belief or secret hope that you have the power to fix the past. Once you let go of the fantasy, letting go of the original event will be much easier.
This paragraph is a comment I wrote about a passage on page 59-60 of Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®.)
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