John Bradshaw defined shame as the conviction that you–your very existence is a mistake. He once told me that his book, “Healing the Shame that Binds You” was the one that sold the most copies.
Shame may be a natural reaction to being interrupted when you are doing something that is pleasurable. For example, a preschooler used his mother’s lipstick to draw pictures on walls. She yelled and scared him, he couldn’t manage it and reacted by feeling shame and freezing energy when nobody consoled him. The Logosynthesis sentences and processes in this book will help you release that frozen energy.
Toxic shame is something else. When you are told over and over again that you are bad, useless, a slut or worse by someone who has power over you–like an alcoholic parent in a rage–you certainly don’t have the resources to protect yourself.
You might try to manage by pretending to be somewhere else–or that you are a rock–or trying to be good so the barrage will stop. That may stop the immediate pain, but it never goes away. It stays hidden but it takes life energy to keep a lid on the hurt.
In this case, a Logosynthesis Practitioner can help you carefully release this recurrent trauma.
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